kU LUPA

ku lupa...
dalam senyum ada duka..
dalam cinta ada sayang..
dalam rindu ada suka ...

ku lupa ...
dalam kata2 ada cerca..
dalam simpulan ade ikatan ...
dalam hati ada taman....
dalam perjuangan ada kegagalan...

ku lupa..
dalam dalam pertemuan ada perpisahan...
dalam sakit ada penawar..
dalam tangisan ada luka....

yang pasti ...
ku lupa..
dalam mencintai tak semesti harus kumiliki..
dalam persahabatan pasti ada perbalahan...
dalam sebuah perjalanan kena ada kesungguhan...
itulah kehidupan... itulah kebahgiaan....


notakakikudibibirmu : 26/10 malam tadi dapat tgk si kacak..mmg sweet..
thanks;) for ur fren ship...aippp kowang jgn bergosip ok
xde ape2 nye kitaorg ni...ak nih dak demok kot:P
well i've nothing...

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Relationship Communication - How Couples Perceive Each Other

By :Autor: KarenBrody


Just because someone is listening to me, I don't assume that they got the communication that I sent. Neither should you.

So after I say something, I have created the habit of asking my listener what s/he heard from me. I also like to check in on my own perceptions about what I've heard from someone.

Rather than assuming that my perceptions about what other people mean when they say something are accurate, I've gotten into the practice of asking if what I heard was what they meant to communicate to me.

Here's one great example:
I had assumed for a while that when my lover didn't ask for my support (because I certainly ask for his) that it was because he didn't think I had anything to give him. I was really upset about this story I was telling myself and it was affecting how I related to him. I found that I resented asking for his support, and did everything in my power to avoid it. I felt awful because it thwarted my natural inclination to ask. But he wouldn't ask me… It was a viscous circle.

When I finally checked in and asked "I've had the feeling that you don't ask me for help because you don't think I have anything to offer you. Is that accurate with what is happening for you?" He laughed. "Absolutely not," he said. "I just can't seem to ask. It's my issue. I really value your help," he said.

Lately we've been working with asking each other what we RECEIVE in our communications and it's fascinating how much of what is SENT is altered by way of how we hear things. He could say "I don't want to talk about it," and I will hear "You don't want to talk to me." We then have an opportunity to clarify and better understand how each of us uses language.

If you use the words "sense," "feel" or "intuit," you let your partner know "Look, this is a perception."

No one wants to be TOLD how he or she is." I sense you're angry," is an opening. "You're angry," is a dead end. Then simply ask, "Is that accurate?" "Does that resonate with you?" "Is that what's going on for you?"

It feels great to have someone care enough to really get it right and to be able to reflect your communication back to you with accuracy.

Perception Checking:
Ask who you're talking to reflect back to you what s/he heard. If what you had hoped to send and what they received are different, you've got a place to start from to clear up any misconceptions and get yourselves both "on the same page."
After someone says something to you, reflect back to him or her what you've heard. Discover if it matches. If it doesn't it gives you both the chance to make sure that the message that's being sent is the one you're getting.

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Learning How To Move On

In order to live your life the way that you truly want to, there are various things which you need to do. Letting go is just one of them and it is perhaps one of the most important things which you will need to learn to do.

Perhaps you need to move on from the past? Or maybe you need to move on from a failed relationship? No matter what it is that is holding you back, by letting go and moving on you are allowing yourself to be truly happy.

Moving On and Achieving Success

If you want to be successful in life you will need to know where you are going. You also need as much positive energy surrounding you as possible so that you do not get held back. By allowing something to hold you back you can only stay in the same, unfulfilling life as what you are currently leading; and generally that is not a very healthy existence.

By learning to move on you are learning to accept that sometimes there is nothing else you can do. You can fight it and stay tied to the past, wallowing in self defeat, or you can pick yourself up and really make something of yourself. Everybody goes through something that they wish they hadn't, but they cannot change it and by realizing that they learn that they have to move on.

Think of all of the things that you could achieve:

Meeting someone new
Moving away and starting again
Moving up the career ladder

Whatever you want to do you can do. Only you can change your life and you can do that by picking up the pieces and moving on. Whatever has happened in the past can spur you on to achieve something better in your future. We shape our lives and we are the only ones who can change things for ourselves.

Just because a relationship did not work out, it does not mean that you will not find your ideal partner. It takes time but eventually the damage will heal and you will be able to move on and find somebody who you truly deserve to be with.

The main way to look at your past is to see it as a learning curve. Just think you have to make some poor choices in order to recognize the good ones. In the case of a bad relationship, how can you possibly know when you are onto a good thing if you have never experienced a bad thing? Sometimes you have to go through hard times in order to fully appreciate the good times.

Overall you need to appreciate that what has happened is in your past; and now with the right inspiration and motivation, you can move on to a better future. By moving on and letting go you will feel a lot better and in turn you will look a lot better too. You never truly realize just how much you are being held back until you actually do let go and move on.

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Top 10 Signs of a Cheating Man

Autor: glenalb@gmail.com

A cheating man can only hide his cheating ways for so long before he gets caught. The longer a man cheats, the higher probability he will get caught. In this busy day and age, it is difficult to carry on more than one relationship. However, with inventions like the internet, accessibility to willing partners has become easier than ever. There are various ways of how to tell if your man is cheating. We have listed the top 10 signs of a cheating man below. How to know if your man is cheating? If your man exhibits any of the below, it may be time to take a closer look.

1. Spends less time with you. A cheating man must use the excuse of working long hours, extra meetings and dinners or other unexplained functions so he will have time with his "other" woman.

2. Isn't as affectionate any more. Your sex life in almost non-existent because of his other commitments. He doesn't want to cuddle, watch a movie, hold hands or do many of the touchy things he used to.

3. He changes his physical appearance. A cheating man usually starts buying new clothes, gets a new hair style or begins working out because he wants to be attractive to the other woman in his life besides you.

4. Car changes. The passenger seat in the car has been moved or there is an unknown hair on the car seat. Perhaps the radio station is on an irregular station because that's what she likes.

5. Cheating man becomes more short-tempered because of the guilty feelings as a result of the infidelity. Things that usually did not bother them suddenly start bothering them.

6. A cheating man may smell of perfume, smoke or alcohol, especially if he hasn't had time to change them from meeting with her.

7. Behavioral changes. A cheating man frequently becomes defensive when questioned about his whereabouts. He may turn it around to accuse you of being insecure, possessive or snoopy.

8. Cell phone changes. A cheating man can not leave his telephone turned on when with you because his other woman may phone him. He may leave the room to have a telephone conversation or say strange things after he picks up a message from his lover. Watch for calls in the middle of the night. If you have access to his telephone bill, check it closely. Look for repeated unknown numbers, times and durations.

9. Computer usage changes. A cheating man may utilize a computer to seek out partners or communicate with. If your man is on his computer for long periods of time at night and he closes the door so you won't see him, he may be communicating or chatting with his love interest.

10. Changes in spending habits. You can tell if your man is cheating if he is suddenly always broke. He's broke because he is spending all of his money on the other woman. Watch as to whether he is paying with cash and making more frequent ATM withdrawals to cover his paper trail. Check any receipts, bill's or stubs that you may have access to.

Once you know if your man is cheating or not, make sure you have a plan of action that you will take after you accuse him. You need to decide whether it's time for you to move on or whether this relationship may be worth a second chance.

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Believe Your Soul Mate is Out There

Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifesting him or her into your life. The basic law of attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.

I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is part of the formula for manifestation. If you do not yet believe with 100% certainty that your soul mate is out there, let’s begin to look for things that will make a believer out of you.

Do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this then I am certain you are loveable. Why? Because, loveable people want more love in their lives. But, if you believe you are not loveable, I’m going to ask you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down and then memorize them. You will be using them shortly for your treasure map.

I know many very attractive, successful single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to finding their soul mate.

The list usually goes something like this:
I’m too old.
I’m too fat.
I’m too damaged.
I have too much baggage.
I am too successful.
I am not successful enough.
All the good ones are taken.
Nobody I want wants me.

These are just knee-jerk excuses to keep you stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse. What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? It’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love.

You don’t really know where air or water comes from but you totally believe that they are there for you. As a human being you know that air and water are your divine right. You know that no matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water. The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate. There is nothing for you to do, there is only a way for you to BE.

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Speak Up : Now or NEVER

' saya dah dpt jawapan ... .dah ..jawapan die '' OoH " "

tonite...
i'm free....!!!!
at this..playground....
with my maxis num lol....
finally i got the answer...
yet i've no courage to tell him...
what i felt inside...
within me...
before it fade away like a wind..
gaze over the night ....
i sit here all alone....
let it be....
my hp...in my hand...
........


[ DeEper ConversaTion ]

i call my bff...
'' dear , finally i got it ..."
'' what , beb??? " Ms K
'' i told him in hard way...LOL on d phone and ,
sorry i didn't tell u earlier "
'' its ok beb i'm here for u...btw ...what the answer ???" Ms K
" OoOouHh , u know what i coll him more than 1 times today LOL...hahah "
hard to breath....but well i did it....
and moreover i won't REGRET it....!
'' what ??? so heart Less he is...hahaah..OOOohH" Ms K
'' well , i won't put the blame on him...or me...mybe....
without his consent hahah..LOL..."
" Ok then...I hope u relief....dear..." Ms K...
'' yes, hard for me...yet So hard if u ever wonder how its like..
i told him I like him...i guess '' i LOve u "
is not suitable word in my cases...not NOW...[ sigh ]
nyte beb ...Love U "
" ok Nyte..my batery is weak LOL " Ms K


update 3 am...

well..its not i'm gonna ask for anything ....i never would
( u deserve much better ) yes i do think so...
juz i don't wanna regret...for the word that unspoken.....
u seem fade away...
as i stare....and i'm scared.....
i make my confession ...
i ask u plz stand by me....but people do changed.....
so i throw it all away.....now....or never...so i pick now.....
and.....i'm glad....we still fren..:)
it may be hurt...
but...it will hurt me...more..
if i never tell u now...
taking the risk...
life is beautiful.....:x



MoOd : relief

enjoy this SONG..( juz for FUN )

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